2015/11/24

勇气


我在FB看到一句有意思的话,

“你以为挑起生活的担子是勇气,
其实过自己真正想要的生活才需要勇气。”

我很认同。毕竟对我来说,要真的不管其他人说些什么而去追求自己真正想要过的生活所需要的是不一般的勇气。
无奈又有多少人会知道和了解呢?

以前的我,只要做了决定就会义无反顾的执行到底。
现在的我,做事都希望可以经过深思熟虑,不可轻易行动啊。
在衡量了一切所可以衡量的以后才做出决定。
其实这样有好,也有不好。
随着年龄的增长,我想这就是我有成长的地方了吧。

以前我爸很爱和我说,针没有两头利。
可是我就是很执著的要把另一头不利的针也要磨利的人。
久了以后发现,原来最累的人是自己。
所以现在很多时候,我都会提醒自己想任何事情的时候都要把自己纳入考量。
不要一味的先为其他人着想,因为有时候真的辛苦了自己,也不值得。

我希望我的人生还是可以以开心的过为主。

因为种种的经历让我觉得珍惜现在和活在当下才是人生最重要的。
当我遇到不如意的事情时,我也会尽量的提醒自己要正面一点的来面对。
毕竟还呼吸着才让我们有了要面对的事情啊。

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FB最近有人post,说working and travel的lifestyle并不是reality,而是fantasy。
刚开始我认同,因为有些人只顾着想念那无忧无虑的生活形式而忽略了他们现在的生活。
接踵而来的就是因为无法面对在这里生活的“现实”生活而不断的埋怨现在的生活,

但是我想了一想上面的那一句话后,
我的看法不同了。

我想问写那篇文章的人,“你是谁?你凭什么说他们过的生活不是reality?
你听过subjective reality吗?”
我觉得只要在过着那生活形式的人才可以决定那是不是reality, 是天堂,还是fantasy.
不可以一竹竿打一船人。

归根究地还是个人的选择在作祟,还有现实,
如果你真的很想回去过着那一种你想要的生活的话,
那就拿出勇气/累积勇气与实力来得到那一切吧。
总比一直在讲而没有行动来得好吧。

2015/11/16

Civilization and social responsibility

Living in a civilized society (I assumed I am),
I seriously think that we need to take good care of our own belongings to avoid causing troubles to the others, a classic example that I can think of range from the bystander effect to road use manners and vehicle maintenance. 
Some people just don't take care of their cars' road safety and drove their cars out without considering what troubles they might caused to the other road users. I don't care if it is financial issues or whatever other issues because it doesn't give them an excuse to cause trouble to the other road users! 
Please maintain your car's performance so that it doesn't broke down halfway causing a long traffic.
Especially those drivers who like to drive at a speed that's too slow following a fast lane. They are causing other road users time waste! I am not saying that you cannot drive slowly, but please drive at the correct lane according to your car's speed!

If we could think for the others, it would really make the world a better place to live in. 

Another incident that leads me to write this post was my visit to the cinema the other day. 
As we all know (I assumed), there are different warnings /age appropriate sign labelled to the films such as P13/P18.
The main purpose of the sign was to warn people/movie goers some contents in some films are inappropriate for viewers under the age of 13/15/18 years old. 
But what I saw the other day was a film labelled as P13, in TGV Kepong,
I have young children sitting next to and in front of me, 
I have children making noise wanting to eat popcorn and arguing about their seats. 

They were everywhere. 

Perhaps those parents/caregivers were not aware that the film was actually a P13 category. 
It was not the first time I encountered these types of situations since it happens almost every time I went for a movie. 
I can't blamed the workers there for not checking the age of the viewers when selling the tickets and at the entrance because everyone are busy and parents can buy the tickets for their children, right? 

*rollingeyes* 

But, parents? 
Aren't parents' responsibilities to educate their children? 
Although it seems that the society is changing and we are not really sure whose responsibility is that to educate children anymore.

*itissoobvioustomethatparentshavetheprimaryresponsibilitythough* 

But, if you parents chose to bring along your young kids (younger than the age limit), please be sure that they will not behave in a way that disturbs other movie goers.
I cannot control what and how you want to teach/educate your young children, but if you can't control them, it shows that you have poor social responsibility awareness because it disturbed the others in the same cinema. 
Yeah, of course I understand that there are young couples who would like to spend sometime together and re-experience your good old times and due to whatever life circumstances and unforeseen circumstances, no one else could help you to take care of your young children and children and you have to bring them along, 
but please do not use it as an excuse to put your burden onto the others.
Please remember that we live in a "civilized" society,
we should be responsible of our own conduct, please...
For those who do not silent their phones, I really have no words for them because they can't even follow a simple instruction with the ads showed right before the film starts. 
Perhaps they lived in their own fantasy world where people are super accommodating and can't hear their ringtones. 

Happy New Year 2024

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