2019/10/28

生活和家庭那一个比较重要?

很多人会说家庭

但是我想说我不认同
在你反驳我前,请先看完

因为很多人会想都不想就说家庭
但是真的必须选择时,很多人都选择了金钱
为甚么呢?
我有一个个案
他们都经历了不安和觉得治疗好像没用的感觉
但是他们坚持了下来

最后他们好想花了2500吧,


可是很多人都会和我说,治疗好贵哦。
我想我们还是不需要了,毕竟我们只是吵吵架而已,
不需要治疗

无奈的我只能默默的挥手说你们可以回家再考虑看看哦。。。
心里却已是说再见。

2019/06/19

文化的传承与没落

最近我看了Phantom of the Opera的舞台剧,
看完了以后,我有一个感想/问号,
为什么西方的文化表演可以传承到今天,更发扬光大到东方国家,
可是我们马来西亚的一些文化传统却没能保留下来?
我想到的是大戏。
其实我不知道现在的小孩有多少人看过我们华人的大戏。
我觉得大戏和香港的粤剧很类似。
我不懂得如何解释什么是大戏,但是可以看这里:

之前就在报纸看到本地大戏团逐渐没落的报道。

我在想,
究竟这舞台剧和我们的唱大戏有什么分别?
为什么我们愿意花那么多钱去看这些源自西方的表演可是却本地的文化表演却逐渐的没落呢?
想了一想,其实保存我们的文化真的是一件很重要的事!
可是须要有心人啊。。。



2019/02/24

How did I end up travelling in Myanmar

When I told my family & friends that I will be travelling to Yangon, Myanmar in December 2018, the first question that most of them asked was, WHY?

Honestly, I don't have an answer to that question. Because my intention was to pay my colleagues a visit in their home country. Also, we have a few ex-colleagues who retired and I thought that it would be nice to visit & catch up with them. That's all.

However, that's not the end because we also need to plan for our trips there since my colleagues can't be with me ALL the time.

Before we decide to visit Myanmar, I didn't even know about a city named Bagan. Yangon was the only city that I know for Myanmar. Our initial intention was to visit our retired colleagues who resides in Yangon now, as well as paying our current colleagues a visit in their home country. Our intention was simple and little did I expect it to turn into such an amazing experience!

Since we were travelling as 2 girls only, our colleagues were concerned about our safety. So they actually looked for acquaintances who run travel business to arrange for the tour for us and their suggestion was to visit Bagan because it's one of the most famous tourist location.

Usually, I will do some research and surveys in different travel fairs and read some online blogs to decide on either signing up for a tour package, signing up for day tours, or travel by myself.
However, due to the short amount of time for planning and both my colleague and myself were busy with our work. We allowed our colleagues to give us suggestions and travel with what they have found for us. Although I was doubtful and was concerned about the price, I went ahead and confirmed since it will be a peak season travelling in Myanmar and it's their winter time, which was a perfect timing for their locals to travel there too!

And I have to say, maybe it was just an average tour for others, but I guess perhaps when I went for the tour without much expectation helped elevating my experience in Bagan!
The tour guide, Naing was really helpful and meets all our needs and wants (reasonable ones) and he will do the extra things needed to make us enjoy the tour.

By the way, he said that hes starting his own business and our tour with him will be the last tour for the company that he's working with. Then I thought that it'll be nice if there are people who support him when he's starting and I felt that by writing a blogpost, this is something that I can do to show my appreciation.

So if you're planning on a trip to Myanmar, do contact him via this email, naingmyanmar48@gmail.com.
Here's his photo, 

p/s: Because he doesn't know how I wanted my photo to be, so I'll usually take a photo of him and then tell him the take the same one. But... I'll let you judge yourself if there are similar.

Despite the photography skills, I'll definitely recommend his service because I'm sure about one thing, that he will try his best to make sure that you're trip with him is comfortable and worth the visit and he doesn't mind to go extra miles to fulfill your needs & wants!

I feel that some seasoned tour guides will do the bare minimal/the required things and will not care about you but just to complete their task just like completing a checklist,  I think I  know how to differentiate after travelling for a few times with a tour guide. Otherwise, maybe when they can get commission,  they'll do it and show you extra hospitality.

To be honest, I was hesitating and doubtful if it's worth it because it's expensive for a third world country initially. And yes, I'm speaking from living in a third world country myself.

But I will revel the cost of the trip where we were quoted a 3D2N tour for 285 USD.
In my mind, I was thinking "are you kidding me?" My 5D4N trip to Bangkok doesn't cost that much after including all the food expenses, flight ticket and hotel. But this alone costs me 285USD without food included and staying in a 2 star hotel. With the experience of temple hopping in Chiang  Mai,  I was thinking if I want to do something similar again.

However, my colleague from Myanmar was telling me that this is the standard price and when I go online, yes, some tour companies do show similar price range.
Thus, for my safety,  I've decided to go on with the plan.

Fortunately or unfortunately,  because I was travelling with a Muslim colleague,  so she doesn't take any photos with the templs and I'm privilege to have all the attention of the tour guide, and the driver. haha...

They were very accommodating to help me to take all the 38 photos although I did compromise on many of my photos too...because I feel bad to ask them to keep taking photos...

Last but not least,  I didn't regret this trip at all because even in my dream, I dreamt about the sunset after I'm back from Bagan!!!!! OMG!!!!
Words can't describe how I felt.
It was really a once in a lifetime experience that one cannot simply forgot.

2018/11/14

人类很不负责任(二):本末倒置

最近UN说地球还有多12年的时间。详细的自己看。

http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/d-brief/2018/10/08/new-climate-change-report-reveals-impact-of-half-a-degree-of-warming/#.W8ARR2gzbIU

近年来,大家都在提倡Sustainable Development Goals和sustainable living, development等等的。
可是对我来说,这一切都只是空谈。
想当初,在社会还没有那么进步时,
大家自己耕田,养鸡,种菜。。。自给自足。
可是就是有人开始说这样不够好。
又有人说没有固定的产量,很难衡量和赚钱,
所以必须用农药来控制产量。
到最后,人类死于污染和化学物品当中。
是谁造成的呢?说到底,我觉得其实都是人类自己造的孽。
可能如果我们跟回以前那样生活的话,很多人会饿死/病死,
可是有时候我在想,这不正是和地球和平生活的自然形态吗?
人本来就要经历生老病死,
可是当人类贪婪的想要更方便的活得更久,就拼命的掠夺地球的资源,
然后再谈环保,在我看来,这就是本末倒置。

可是究竟是谁说我们的生活品质更好了的?
家人之间的感情都越来越疏远了。
人也变得更冷漠,
究竟我们所谓的发展和提高生活品质到底是什么?
当然,无可厚非的是,我们的生活的却更方便了。

但是如果有人建议大家不要再兴建更多的高楼和建筑,
不要再卖朔料,不要一直把森林砍掉变成城市,
那不是更治本的解决方法吗?

有时我在想,如果更多的人愿意放弃资本主义而回归平凡生活,
那不是一个更好的解决方法吗?

最近看了一个影片说到人类用越来越短的时间在增加人口。
从以前的十亿到现在的75亿人口,用的时间越来越短。
所以那名环保人士就在二十几岁时决定了结扎和做了手术,
因为他认为人类才是造成地球污染的根源。
而且他觉得这是很nobel的选择,因为他说根据数据,
每一个小孩用的尿片和成长的过程所制造的污染是很高的。
所以谈环保,就必须先让人类的增长率慢下来。
法国的一名环保人士说他听过一则讽刺的笑话,
有一天,地球遇在宇宙见了另一个和她一样漂亮的星球,
地球很羡慕的告诉这个星球说她很漂亮。
那这个星球就告诉地球,其实你和我一样漂亮,
以前我也得过像你一样的病,可是当我把病原消灭后,
我就恢复我美丽的外貌了。
地球问真的吗?这是个病?
星球回答,是啊!你得的病叫“人类”!



2018/10/05

我不是主动惹麻烦的人

最近很多drama在我的人生里发生。
其中一件和工作有关。
我认为我做错了一件事。
可是这件事是因为我被隐瞒了一些资讯而产生的误会。
有人就趁机借题发挥,
把这件小事变成了大事。
而我也必须为这件事而承担巨大的后果。
在一些人看来,我好像是故意惹事生非,
但是我可以对天发誓,我没有这样的意愿。
因为当我必须承担的后果对我来说太大,也加重了我很多的压力和工作。
虽然我很讨厌我的同事,可是我不想她离开。
这大概就是工作上复杂的人际关系吧。
其实我很庆幸一直以来,我大部分的同事都很友善;
就只是和我工作上接触最多的人给我比较多的麻烦。
可是3年了,我都忍下来了啊。
为什么她一年都不忍,把我的计划都打乱了呢?
我可能要留在这件我讨厌的公司久一点了。
我心不甘情不愿的来上班。
因为我的良心过意不去。
可是当我对他人善良的同时,我对自己残忍。
矛盾中~~~


2018/09/23

人类很不负责任(一)

最近大家都在说环保。
看清楚,是说环保,不是做环保。

其中我第一件想到的事就是纸尿片。
曾经我的父母都只用尿布,因为纸尿片太贵了。
虽然很麻烦,也必须重复清洗,很累人;
但是因为生活环境不好,就唯有那么不方便的生活。
可是在这个人人都提倡纸尿片卫生,快速,方便的社会里。
大部分的人都放弃了尿布。
但是纸尿片对地球造成的污染是不可忽视的,
因为他们不能被再循环利用。
*我知道有人在利用纸尿布来做一些再循环,可是大部分的纸尿布都没有被正确的丢弃并被再循环利用*
说到底,我觉得应该是capitalism在作祟吧。
他们制作了产品来赚钱,然后告诉你你必须使用。
当人类养成了习惯以后就不轻易改变。
因为过习惯了方便的生活,又如何再适应过不方便的生活呢?

我觉得人类好自私哦,为了方便我们的生活,我们做了那么多破化地球的事情。
可是当她处于危机时,人类却总是有大条道理去合理化我们的行为举止。


我读过一名环保人士说过,他大学毕业就做了结扎手术,
因为他深深的体会到人类才是污染的根源。
一个人类产生的污染物远远超过其他任何的物品。
所以他做了一个那么“伟大”的决定。
也有了一个很noble的原因来不生小孩。

2018/09/18

国泰民安+安居乐业

最近的我越来越不安。
我开始对国泰民安和安居乐业的定义起了好奇心。
科技越来越发达,国家发展得越来越快。
那天到吉隆玻也和姐提起了十多年前的吉隆玻和变化。
觉得自己老了,
开始说想当年。
但是反观自己,其实没有太多惊人的发展。
就只是一直在尝试过好我的生活罢了。
就算只是这样,都已经够难得了。
换了新政府,大家保持希望之余,也必须适应新规矩。
我观察我父母的那一代,虽然过的不是荣华富贵的生活,
可是他们很多人奋斗了一辈子后,
现在享有安居乐业的生活。
我对安居乐业的定义是有工作,有家,有家人,过着平淡的生活。
年纪大了,就享受天伦之乐。
不必为了生活而担忧。
不须要庸庸碌碌,过三餐不饱的生活。

随着国家发展,物价很高,可是人民的平均收入不高。
所以我们唯有花更多的时间工作,以维持我们的生活。
人民的硬件生活品质无疑是变好了,可是我们真的可以用它来定义我们的感受吗?
至少我不是那么认为的。

有时我在想,如果国家的发展必须用国不泰,民不安;人民不能安居乐业来交换的话,
那我情愿发展慢点,让国人拥有安居乐业的生活。
毕竟这个代价对我来说很沉重。
我不懂经济和国家发展蓝图,
最根究底,其实我就是想过平淡的生活罢了,
可是现在的社会好像不再允许我过我想过的生活了。




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